3 Key Benefits to Having a Friend Who Will Walk in Your Shoes When Life Gives You Lemons

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade...with a friend.

Have you ever heard of the phrase, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade?" I don't know about you, but the adversity and misfortune that these lemons can represent in our lives can seem, at times, too terrible and bitter for anything sweet to come out of them.

At the Flaws, we are learning the valuable lesson that although this life is guaranteed to give us lemons, the benefits of true Friendship will provide an extra pair of hands to help us squeeze them.

Three Key Benefits

1.) Your Hurt is Her Hurt

Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2

There will be people who will remain around you when the going is easy but will disappear as soon as things get heavy.

The greatest of friends will never run when the lemons begin to fall around us. They stay to help pick them up, recognizing that we cannot, and should not, ever have to carry the weight of our hardships alone.

A True friend is not afraid to walk a mile in your shoes, helping to carry the weight of your hurt because she doesn't just see it, she feels it too.

One of the best pain relievers we can experience is to allow someone else to help bear our burdens. This shows us that the truest of friends are filled with mercy, compassion, and the strength to hold us up when we're hurt.

2.) She Helps You Press Through the Pain

Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Romans 12:15

A good friend walks with you through hard times, and when those lemons are ready to be squeezed, she will be right there. Not only will she bring a tissue for you, she will also bring one for herself.

Sorrows have a way of trying to squeeze the life right out of you, while a friend has a way of helping you press on through the pain.

And then together, you begin to squeeze every ounce of pain, grief, fear, and sorrow out of the situation. With the hint of a smile, you are able to look towards the horizon, knowing your tears made an ocean filled with prayers powerful enough to give you hope for a brighter day.

3.) She Can Turn the Bitter into Sweet

Sweet friendships refresh the soul and awaken our hearts with joy, for good friends are like the anointing oil that yields the fragrant incense of God’s presence. So never give up on a friend or abandon a friend of your father — for in the day of your brokenness you won’t have to run to a relative for help. A friend nearby is better than a relative far away. Proverbs 27:9-11

Whether it be adversity, misfortune, loss, or pain, the bitter hardships of life seem to come to break us, but Friendship has a way of helping us breathe. It has a sweet way of drawing near enough to break the patterns of aloneness that come when brokenness is near.

Friendship is the natural life sweetener. It can refresh your soul, renew your joy, and in the days of brokenness, be nearby and ready to help turn the bitter into sweet.

When hard times come, a friend will be the first to arrive with two glasses and ice and sugar in their hands, ready to fill those dry cracks in your soul with laughter, love, and a little freshly squeezed lemonade.

Those lemons never had a chance.



An unexpected and untimely death recently occurred in my family, and I personally think that death might be one of the most bitter of lemons that we will ever have to experience in this life. I watched as people surrounded my family with words of comfort, stories that reminisced upon days filled with laughter, and hugs that brought hope for pressing on through the deepest of pain.

Through the actions of my friends, during the hardest of times, I have felt the tangible presence of God. Friendship has shown me over and over again that it is one of the most brilliant and beautiful displays of LOVE that the world will ever get to experience. It has proven to me, time and again, that:

  1. Friends who CARE are THERE, because LOVE hurts WITH you.

  2. Friends make you smile quicker than any other, and LAUGHTER is liquid LOVE that LIGHTENS your sorrow and brings HOPE for your future.

  3. BITTER is turned to SWEET in the Presence of LOVE, and FRIENDSHIP is LOVE.

" A friend loves at all times." Proverbs 17:17

I pray that you, dear reader, live out this kind of Friendship ---- the kind that is willing to STAY when it's hard by walking in the shoes of another, willing to feel her pain; the kind that makes you LAUGH once again, creating joy that paves a path to healing and helps you CELEBRATE when the bitterness of this life is sweetly drowned out by the love of a FRIEND.



FLAW- Bitter

LAW- Sweet

RECIPE FOR THE WEEK: Perfect Lemonade



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